She promises one year to live with her elderly, stubbornly independent mother, clean out the house her parents had stashed with musty history for five decades, and move her mother into assisted living. Four years later, daughter and mother are still in the kitchen fighting over food and territory, dementia and blindness in this fierce, compassionate, humorous memoir of self-discovery and forgiveness. For everyone who is, has, or will be caring for a family member.