People with borderline or narcissistic personality disorders have a serious mental illness that primarily affects their intimate, personal, and family relationships. Often they appear to be normally functioning at work and in public interactions, and may even be highly effective, in the short term, in some work or social situations. Fjelstad describes how people get into a caretaker role-- and how they can get out. She gives real life examples of how individuals have let go of their caretaker behaviors with creative and effective solutions.